Fine Distinctions - Ones
Self Preservation Ones
- Talented at getting things done and attending to practical detail.
- Ultra-reliable; do what they say they will and on time.
- Tend towards worry and negative anticipation about their material well being.
- Can catastrophize about money; might be “penny-wise and pound-foolish.”
- A petty, finicky quality; may magnify small tasks into large problems.
- Prone to a mild form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
- Distorted sense of responsibility; feel like they have to make the sun come up in the morning.
Can seem like anxious Sixes but they lack a Six’s underlying core of
helpless fear. Ones don’t doubt their capacity to take action.
- Could believe that everything has to be just right in order to avert disaster.
- May have a sense of being undeserving or inadequate which they compensate for with worry.
- Fear that if something goes wrong it will painfully confirm their lack of worth.
- Intimate Ones
Able to bring out the best in people.
Personable, with good social skills.
Motivated by a desire to improve for a mate.
Can feel like relationships are exercises in mutual improvement.
More vain, especially with a Two wing; aware of how they look.
Idealize their beloved and have high expectations in close relationships.
Grow up in atmospheres of criticism and high standards.
Sensitive to the possibility of being rejected by intimates.
If a beloved is even slightly critical, the One hears the criticism as though through a megaphone.
Distinct capacity for possessive jealousy.
May have conflicts around sexuality; might feel inhibited and yet attracted to wild sin.
Genuinely self-sacrificing, can work tirelessly for the good of others and enjoy putting their ideals into action.
Forgive the world for being flawed but still try to improve it.
Believe they are representatives of a larger social order or tradition.
Preoccupied with rules and how they apply to (other) people’s behavior.
apply the same rigid standards to each new situation; unconsciously ask
themselves, “What is the rule?” rather than “What is necessary or
Can become preachy, won’t change their mind and won’t change the subject.
themselves by focusing on things that are essentially none of their
business i.e. What others are doing wrong, issues of public morality.
Especially prone to black and white thinking; can cling to wrong-headed certainty in order to avoid the unknown.
Can be hypocritical: “Do as I say not as I do.”
May resist modern life and fail “on principle” to adapt to new trends or realities.
believe that being rigid, inflexible and closed are virtues, proof the
One is living by an infallible moral or religious code.
Value structures, systems and rules; can be impersonal and dictatorial in positions of power.
Most schools of religious and political fundamentalism are ruled by Social Oneness.
One with a Nine Wing
Brings Ones a tolerant, receptive, mellow quality.
Objective and balanced; moderate in their evaluations.
Good at making difficult or unpopular decisions based solely on the facts.
A cooler quality to the emotions; Ones with a Two wing burn hotter.
A dryness of spirit, tending towards emotional constriction.
Modest and unpretentious in their personal demeanor.
Often appear a little colorless, prefer functional clothing that is possibly drab.
Practicality is highly valued, nothing is ostentatious.
Have an aura of Nine-like calm although eruptions of temper are possible.
They tend to be slow burns, get angry gradually.
Have a detached quality and can be mistaken for Fives.
Austere, resistant to modernism. Think of the Luddites or Amish.
Can take stubborn inflexible positions that are pointless or malformed.
May have perfectionistic expectations that are not humanly possible to meet.
They can hold simplistic opinions that are superficially logical but ultimately heartless.
One with a Two Wing
This wing brings more interpersonal warmth and awareness of emotions.
Generally more passionate and intense.
More interpersonal; temper their high standards with humanistic sympathy.
Able to empathize with the motives underneath behavior rather than simply judging surfaces.
Sacrifice time and energy for good works that help people.
May elect themselves to play parental or big sister/big brother supervisory roles towards others.
Can be bossy, self-righteous, severe and eruptive; could give scolding lectures or display a touchy emotionalism.
Hot shots; can be haughty or even overtly arrogant; may overrate themselves
Hypocrisy and moral vanity are more likely.
Convinced their motives are pure their pride can override their principles.
Overlook or rationalize the inevitable inconsistencies in their own behavior.
Can have more trouble admitting mistakes due to Twoish pride.
“Do as I say, not as I do” attitudes are possible.
Can also be dependent in relationships.
Connecting Points (Stress and Security)
One’s Connection to Seven
This connection brings Ones qualities like playfulness, flexibility and good cheer.
Helps them loosen the rules, enjoy life and see what’s going right.
They embrace paradox, and see multiple options and choices.
Sensuality can emerge along with an improved sense of humor.
have more of a positive motivation strategy, motivating themselves
through a system of rewards. Use carrots rather than the stick of
on the inherent opportunities in new situations; More likely to ask,
“What do I want?” or “How can I make the most of this?”
This connection also bring Ones an exploratory sense of adventure and a wide range of interests.
May fight their Sevenish feelings, especially their “illicit” impulses; squelch them in the service of being good.
See their own Sevenish qualities in others; indict the others for being libertine and irresponsible.
to addiction; can live secret lives or episodically escape, breaking
completely free of the rules to have illicit adventures.
Can be narcissistic, hypocritical and undependable.
Slippery about facing the consequences of their actions.
May start things they don’t finish.
Might demand good behavior from others and blame them for failings the One shares.
Can be more intellectual, theoretical and scatterbrained.
One’s Connection to Four
Their Four streak gets them into their feelings and inner life.
They discover how they really feel in contrast to how they “should” feel.
The connection enhances a One’s creative, artistic imagination.
They are attracted to art and nature, the aesthetic and the spiritual.
Ones are prone to melancholy, it is a portal feeling; they pass through it on their way to other feelings.
with reality; could feel sadly alone in a world that doesn’t appreciate
their efforts to reform it, surrounded by incompetents.
May compare the present with a romanticized version of the past.
Can be self-pitying like an unhealthy Four, bemoaning their lot in life and implicitly asking others to support or rescue them.
Could yearn to live in a finer, more ideal world, a quality of wistful nostalgia.
Have sentimental streaks and can occasionally be maudlin.
idealize their parents and romanticize their early family life in a way
that blinds them to the family’s darker undertones undertones and less
Can over-react emotionally; may tend towards morose depression.
Self-critical and depressive; they can harbor an inner sense of defect; turn their high standards against themselves.
They may remorsefully vow to suppress their flaws, which then sets up the next episode of “bad” behavior.
A few are morbidly interested in death and disease.
A self-indulgent Fourish sense of being exempt from normal consequence.
May project and then indicting their own sensitivities in others.
Hyper-rational: can become anti-subjective and anti-intuitive to defensively protect the primacy of reason.
will notify you of new blog posts, upcoming product specials
as well as
new podcasts, workshops, CDs,
videos and books.