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Fine Distinctions: Fives
Subtypes
Self Preservation Fives
Often exceptionally knowledgeable, possibly about obscure subjects
Use their knowledge to contribute to the world
Sensitive to being saturated, feel overwhelmed by people’s expectations
Lose their sense of privacy more easily and can quickly feel overstimulated
Chief defensive tendency is to physically or emotionally withdraw.
May be more explicitly alienated than the other subtypes
Can
close themselves off, burrow into their hobbies and interests; become
expert at subjects so specialized or obscure that others leave them
alone
Try to take little from people; fear what the interaction will cost them
Have a thin ectomorphic body type although they may gain weight due to a sedentary lifestyle
Especially cost conscious around money, penny-wise and pound foolish
Think of millionaire paupers who die in hovels but have mattresses stuffed with money
Intimate Fives
Trust only a few selected people but then do so totally.
Friendship is based on the sharing of confidences. Intimacy is equivalent to exchanging secrets.
A
Five’s bond with a close friend or partner is experienced as away from
the outside world, in a bubble, with an all or nothing quality.
Can go from enigmatic, deliberate distance to intense, unguarded openness
Intuitive, sensitive and non-judgmental of friends
A streak of voyeurism; think of internet sex
Can obsessively love from afar and then go cold when their love is physically present
Compartmentalize their relationships; might have friends who never meet each other
Could especially fear having their separate friends meet
Savor fantasies of being invisible, being close to others and yet unseen
Could be a bigamist if they had the energy
Sneaky and devious; can betray others by keeping secrets, telling white lies
Social Fives
A contradiction in terms. can be gregarious, generous friends
Self declarative and socially courageous; more likely extraverted
Could
be dedicated to promoting a social or group cause, willing to take
principled political and social stands even if it means being
uncomfortably exposed
Connect with groups of like-minded people sharing knowledge and affiliations
Prefer specialized or esoteric realms of knowledge that exclude the uninitiated
Can be snobs; value knowing the “right” people, belonging to the best clubs or concerned with titles, degrees, credentials
Good listeners and behind-the-scenes facilitators who avoid the limelight
Can have an odd combination of presence and distance, like they are fully involved and yet holding something back,
Indiscreet; may share information with their chosen group and be quite gossipy.
Can be more Sevenish as in flighty, glib and insincere
May suffer from Social Affective Disorder, which is essentially stage fright
A talent for predictions
Five with a Four Wing
Brings Fives an abstract, intuitive cast of thought
Like Fours they may be artistically talented and moody
Combine intellectual imagination with emotional intelligence
Marriage of mental perspective with aesthetics
Generally more kinesthetic (conscious of feelings)
Use their logical mind to temper their visions, daydreams
Use their logical mind to subdue their feelings
Can
have a sense of being alien although it is not pivotal to their
identity and something they may enjoy; may be nostalgic like Fours
May be eccentric and have an abstracted “absentminded professor” quality
Some seem distracted, preoccupied and disorganized
Can fluctuate between impersonal withdrawal and bursts of friendly caring
Some have an air of implicit superiority
Can
be whiners, especially complaining about how much a job or a
relationship or other responsibilities that drain them; could bemoan
the difficulty of going beyond their limits
Some have quiet voices and the non-verbal affect of ghosts
Environmentally sensitive; may feel defenseless against the world’s imput
Recover slowly from traumatic events
Can tend to depression where they the world as a gray void
Five with a Six Wing
The difference between the Four wing and the Six wing in Fives is like the difference between art and science
Fives with a Six wing are generally more intellectual and analytical
Good
with detail and technical knowledge; tend to think in logical
sequences, in a linear way that is information-based; prone to
“information addiction”
More likely to think in words and images and are generally less kinesthetic
Their tempo of speech and may be faster
Can be loyal friends, offering strong background support
Can be kind, patient teachers as well as skillful experts
Many have a sense of mission and work hard
Can see both the big picture and its small details and shuttle back and forth between the two
Can project an aura of sensitive nerdiness
May have clumsy social skills; socially nervous if not playing the role of someone knowledgeable
Prone to feeling guilty; readily give other people their power
More likely to have an authoritarian parent and fear criticism or hostile attack
May have a push/pull or even hostile relationship to authority
Can be cold, skeptical, ironic, and disassociated
Five’s Connection to Eight
Brings Fives access to their raw instinctual energy
Become more physically kinesthetic; out of their heads and into their bodies
Enhances sexuality and physicality; a lusty, pushy quality
Moral and social courage; they take risks, become initiators instead of observers
The connection to Eight helps Fives translate book-knowledge into action
Take charge of situations that would otherwise overwhelm them.
State their needs, initiate contact with others and get things done
May have leadership qualities and be passionate in a way that is antithetical to the Five defensive dissociated stance
Can be explicitly antisocial and more angry than they ordinarily seem
Could have a snappish, standoffish quality or even a nasty edge
Can
get punitive and severe with others; out of touch with their own anger
so that it comes out in dissociated ways or as a mean streak
May fear their own Eight-like anger, project their own Eightness onto others or be in tension to angry, aggressive people
Turn their anger against themselves, by being self-critical and self-bullying
Could exercise a cold, calculated behind-the-scenes control
Five’s Connection to Seven
Brings Fives enhanced imagination
Seek adventure, whether intellectual, physical or social.
The connection brings curiosity that gives them the nerve to explore the world.
Often less self-conscious; they can be funny, engaging and enthusiastic
Life long learners; stay interested in life and mentally alive into old age
This connection brings a streak of generosity as well as optimism
Sense of humor about themselves
Big picture thinkers; the eclecticism of the Seven combines with the Five’s ability to organize information
Systems thinkers and model builders
Reinforces a Five’s tendency to become abstract, schizoid and compartmentalized.
Can
become addicted to information, lose themselves in activity and
defensively scatter their attention into a range of empty interests.
May play mental games for diversion, using humor to disassociate or trivialize.
Could be flighty, elusively jumping around in their thoughts or even physically fidgety
Might take actions in a fitful sporadic way and for strange reasons
Can rationalize and reframe their behavior to duck consequences
May be socially undependable and noncommittal; can tell lies and rationalize the practice
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