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Fine Distinctions: Nines
Subtypes
Self Preservation Nines
• Often preoccupied with physical comfort, maintaining routines and satisfying appetites.
• Exceptionally good receivers and appreciators; the best things in life are free.
• Grateful for what they have and treasure it.
• Can be reliable, dependable and consistent.
• Specialize in a defense of small horizons.
• Self Preservation Nines are especially prone to diminish their
own expectations, to not quite hope for much out of life-a defense
against disappointment.
• Could be financially well-off but have a self-image of someone poor or destitute.
• Distract themselves with pleasant domestic activities. Live conservatively.
• Consume food and drink for anesthesia. Tend towards addiction,
especially to numbing substances, smoking pot, overeating to the point
of stupor.
• Can have a love of the minimal and enjoy the repetition of known routines.
• Sleepy; may be slow moving, lack energy and be physically lazy.
• The cliche of the couch potato goes with the low side of this subtype.
• Can be extremely neglectful and messy.
• A spaced out, unfocused mentality; lack of rigor.
• No enthusiasm for anything; life is purgatorial, just killing time.
Intimate Nines
• Loyal in love; patient and enduring; able to stay steady in long term relationships.
• Realistically see their partners limits but accept them.
• Good listeners; supportive non-judgmental friends.
• Often focused on an unconscious ideal of romantic union.
• Nines with this subtype are sometimes mistaken for Fours because
of the way they can melancholically yearn for what they don’t have.
• May have high expectations of romantic partners and be prone to jealousy.
• Often this dynamic represents a yearning for a distant parent.
• The ideal of romantic union blocks out the real relationship. It
is a way of staying disengaged from your priorities, a distracting
obsession.
• Find their attractiveness and self-worth in how others see them. Could have an indefinite, receptive seductive quality.
• May idealize people while deleting their flaws; could tolerate being mistreated or abused.
• Can be fickle in love. After committing to a relationship they
can grow critical of their partner and develop a wandering eye.
• Indiscriminate; might have multiple serial relationships,
searching from one person to the next, obsessing about whether their
current partner is “the right one”.
• Some Intimate Nines get involved with two partners and can’t decide between them, a pattern of triangulation.
• Can be romantic on the one hand, callous on the other.
• Sometimes feel driven by lust, especially when they have an Eight wing.
Social Nines
• Nine with this subtype enjoy group process and will work hard to support a group purpose or mission.
• Don’t seek the limelight but could be a group’s leader.
• Could feel like the group’s emissary; no better or worse than those they represent.
• Especially able to mediate, to speak to all sides in a conflict and find common ground between warring parties.
• Gravitate toward groups but feel conflicted about fully joining them.
• Enjoy a group’s energy and interests but are aware of the group‘s expectations.
• Can lose themselves, immersing themselves in a group, trying to become all things to all people.
• May play the role expected of them but stubbornly resent it.
• Could also use the group as a barrier to keep the Nine from facing her own priorities
• Can get caught up in hyperactivity – a stronger connection to
Three goes with this subtype. Often more extraverted and image
conscious.
• Rarely physically lazy. They can be very busy and active but asleep to their deeper priorities and needs.
• Generally more cheerful and extroverted and may be mistyped as Sevens.
• Can act spoiled and broadcast an implicit attitude of privilege,
although this is otherwise inconsistent with Nine temperament.
• An odd combination of self-importance and egolessness.
Internally they struggle with feeling unseen, but outwardly they seek
attention.
• Beneath the adulation they received as children, they felt ignored for who they actually were.
Nine with an Eight Wing
• Healthy Nines with an Eight wing have a modest, steady, receptive quality.
• Charged by the dynamism of Eight; can have great energy and force of will.
• Get things done, make good leaders and have a personal magnetism of which they are only partly aware.
• This wing brings a stronger internal sense of direction; when
they decide on a path of action they may be impossible to influence.
• Relatively fearless and highly intuitive; take their work seriously but not themselves.
• Good friend to others, offers a protective quality. Sympathize with underdogs.
• Not very visual but the connection to Three can modify this somewhat.
• May seem laconic and laid-back on the surface but that belies a deeper intensity.
• Can be surprisingly tactless, rude or gauche and be oblivious to the fact.
• Some Nines with an Eight wing aren’t conscious of being
afraid-their connection to Six. Pave over their fears with aggression
and numb callousness.
• Might surround themselves with fearful people, say, a nervous
dependent Six whom the Nine then rescues. Can have savior complexes.
• May displace their anger; pick a fight about something
peripheral-not what’s really bothering them; Sometimes behind the anger
is a tearful vulnerability.
• Could be amiable, kindly and supportive one minute and then blunt, opinionated or nasty the next. A Jekyll/Hyde quality.
• Prone to blame and to mishandling their anger; while not exactly
vengeful they can be vindictive. An anti-authoritarian streak is also
possible.
Nine with an One Wing
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Nines with a One wing tend to have been “model children.” They
instinctively worked to please their parents by being virtuous, orderly,
and low maintenance.
• Idealistic; a quiet moral authority plus good-hearted peacemaking tendencies.
• Often have a sense of mission, public or private; work hard for
the welfare of whomever they are committed to. Good with detail.
• Unpretentious yet dignified; generally empathetic, have the “common touch;” An elegant simplicity of manner and speech.
• Can be well-liked, modest, endearing; gentle yet firm. Some have
a striking quality of grace and composure punctuated by bursts of
spontaneity and sweetness.
• Sincere, practice what they preach; effective, good natured and idealistic.
• Rule-bound, obedient/compliant; perfectionistic and self-critical.
• Can be compulsively orderly, overly controlled, unemotional and disassociated.
• Can act on weird principles that make little sense; A dubious, fractured morality.
• May be visibly successful but don’t really feel connected to their achievements.
• Passive tolerance of absurd or damaging situations; so normal they’re strange.
• Exceptionally conservative in their habits of living and around making changes.
• May go passively self-neglectful. Dutiful to what they shouldn’t be.
• Minimize, tell themselves they had a great childhood, everything’s fine.
• Placid numbness can creep over them. exceptionally out of touch
with feelings. Intolerant of their own emotions; gradually deaden their
souls.
Nine's Connection to Three
• Brings Nines a kind of clarity of the heart.
• They can suddenly see and prioritize on their own behalf. They
take decisive deliberate steps towards personal goals. brings energy,
industry, action and purpose.
• This connection supports a steady persistence. Focused Nines are unstoppable.
• A stepwise strategy for taking action and completing tasks in the real world.
• This connection also helps Nines with appropriate social
presentation. They are more willing to dress up and voluntarily play
roles in the service of goals. They can also have a sense of propriety,
be well-groomed and have good manners.
• Healthy Threeish Nines can find freedom in role playing and the
connection to Three can bring acting abilities as well as a talent for
mimicry.
• Distinct tendencies towards role-playing and hyperactivity as a
distraction from their basic sense of non-being. A busy form of
self-neglect, an active laziness.
• Threeish Nines can go false and be defined by a milieu, playing roles based on the expectations of others.
• May be vain, enjoy being mistaken for an image or indulge in episodic show-off behavior.
• Nines can be fascinated by or obsessed with Three-like falseness
in others; may want to root out fraudulence and tear it down.
• In Threeish cultures (America) or subcultures (corporations)
Nines can feel extra pressure to succeed and achieve-which they may then
live up to or sabotage.
• They may be ambitious although often they are acting out someone
else’s ambition. Can be chosen to fulfill the family’s unfulfilled
wished and dreams.
• This connection supports a prince or princess-like quality and Threeish Nines can act entitled.
• Can fluctuate between high and low self-esteem; underneath their
image, a Nine may feel indefinite, insignificant and depressingly
unworthy.
Nine’s Connection to Six
• This connection brings Nines courage. Where healthy Sixes develop the courage to do, Nines find the courage to be.
• The connection can usefully shake up a Nine’s complacency. It
helps Nines challenge their fears and take risks, expose the inner self
that they usually disguise and efface.
• The connection to Six brings tenacity and stamina – a
willingness to see things through, to work faithfully away at tasks and
commitments with a committed perseverance.
• Brings an idealism, sense of responsibility that stirs the Nine to action.
• Realistic, more able to acknowledge what can go wrong. If Nines
tend to minimize and Sixes exaggerate. unable to ignore being upset,
useful self-doubt.
• Sixish Nines can have a nervous, scatterbrained quality. They
can overanticipate events, start to doubt themselves and think in
anxious, obsessive loops.
• Distract themselves from seeing the obvious or taking useful action.
• Can seem agitated and frightened in a beside-the-point way.
• The Nine’s laziness about personal priorities is reinforced by
the Six tendency to procrastinate. Sixes postpone taking any action,
while Nines put off taking right action.
• Sixish Nines can go in nervous busy circles. thinking about a
problem or a decision extra hard while getting more and more confused
and obsessive.
• Can be risk-aversive, afraid of making mistakes that might provoke conflict.
• Obedient to authority and a sense of tradition.
• Might hand over responsibility for decisions to others and then blame them if the decisions don’t turn out well.
• Can be cowardly and may run away from conflict or be undependable under stress or duress.
• Anti-authoritarian attitudes especially with an Eight wing.
• An episodic experience of fear-a Nine could have anxiety attacks
followed by months when the Nine is not conscious of feeling fear at
all.
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