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Fine Distinctions: Nines
Self Preservation Nines

  • Often preoccupied with physical comfort, maintaining routines and satisfying appetites.
 • Exceptionally good receivers and appreciators; the best things in life are free.
 • Grateful for what they have and treasure it.
 • Can be reliable, dependable and consistent.
 • Specialize in a defense of small horizons.
 • Self Preservation Nines are especially prone to diminish their own expectations, to not quite hope for much out of life-a defense against disappointment.
 • Could be financially well-off but have a self-image of someone poor or destitute.
 • Distract themselves with pleasant domestic activities. Live conservatively.
 • Consume food and drink for anesthesia. Tend towards addiction, especially to numbing substances, smoking pot, overeating to the point of stupor.
 • Can have a love of the minimal and enjoy the repetition of known routines.
 • Sleepy; may be slow moving, lack energy and be physically lazy.
 • The cliche of the couch potato goes with the low side of this subtype.
 • Can be extremely neglectful and messy.
 • A spaced out, unfocused mentality; lack of rigor.
 • No enthusiasm for anything; life is purgatorial, just killing time.

• Loyal in love; patient and enduring; able to stay steady in long term relationships.
 • Realistically see their partners limits but accept them.
 • Good listeners; supportive non-judgmental friends.
 • Often focused on an unconscious ideal of romantic union.
 • Nines with this subtype are sometimes mistaken for Fours because of the way they can melancholically yearn for what they don’t have.
 • May have high expectations of romantic partners and be prone to jealousy.
 • Often this dynamic represents a yearning for a distant parent.
 • The ideal of romantic union blocks out the real relationship. It is a way of staying disengaged from your priorities, a distracting obsession.
 • Find their attractiveness and self-worth in how others see them. Could have an indefinite, receptive seductive quality.
 • May idealize people while deleting their flaws; could tolerate being mistreated or abused.
 • Can be fickle in love. After committing to a relationship they can grow critical of their partner and develop a wandering eye.
 • Indiscriminate; might have multiple serial relationships, searching from one person to the next, obsessing about whether their current partner is “the right one”.
 • Some Intimate Nines get involved with two partners and can’t decide between them, a pattern of triangulation.
 • Can be romantic on the one hand, callous on the other.
 • Sometimes feel driven by lust, especially when they have an Eight wing.

 • Nine with this subtype enjoy group process and will work hard to support a group purpose or mission.
 • Don’t seek the limelight but could be a group’s leader.
 • Could feel like the group’s emissary; no better or worse than those they represent.
 • Especially able to mediate, to speak to all sides in a conflict and find common ground between warring parties.
 • Gravitate toward groups but feel conflicted about fully joining them.
 • Enjoy a group’s energy and interests but are aware of the group‘s expectations.
 • Can lose themselves, immersing themselves in a group, trying to become all things to all people.
 • May play the role expected of them but stubbornly resent it.
 • Could also use the group as a barrier to keep the Nine from facing her own priorities
 • Can get caught up in hyperactivity – a stronger connection to Three goes with this subtype. Often more extraverted and image conscious.
 • Rarely physically lazy. They can be very busy and active but asleep to their deeper priorities and needs.
 • Generally more cheerful and extroverted and may be mistyped as Sevens.
 • Can act spoiled and broadcast an implicit attitude of privilege, although this is otherwise inconsistent with Nine temperament.
 • An odd combination of self-importance and egolessness. Internally they struggle with feeling unseen, but outwardly they seek attention.
 • Beneath the adulation they received as children, they felt ignored for who they actually were.

Nine with an Eight Wing
 • Healthy Nines with an Eight wing have a modest, steady, receptive quality.
 • Charged by the dynamism of Eight; can have great energy and force of will.
 • Get things done, make good leaders and have a personal magnetism of which they are only partly aware.
 • This wing brings a stronger internal sense of direction; when they decide on a path of action they may be impossible to influence.
 • Relatively fearless and highly intuitive; take their work seriously but not themselves.
 • Good friend to others, offers a protective quality. Sympathize with underdogs.
 • Not very visual but the connection to Three can modify this somewhat.
 • May seem laconic and laid-back on the surface but that belies a deeper intensity.
 • Can be surprisingly tactless, rude or gauche and be oblivious to the fact.
 • Some Nines with an Eight wing aren’t conscious of being afraid-their connection to Six. Pave over their fears with aggression and numb callousness.
 • Might surround themselves with fearful people, say, a nervous dependent Six whom the Nine then rescues. Can have savior complexes.
 • May displace their anger; pick a fight about something peripheral-not what’s really bothering them; Sometimes behind the anger is a tearful vulnerability.
 • Could be amiable, kindly and supportive one minute and then blunt, opinionated or nasty the next. A Jekyll/Hyde quality.
 • Prone to blame and to mishandling their anger; while not exactly vengeful they can be vindictive. An anti-authoritarian streak is also possible.

Nine with an One Wing
 • Nines with a One wing tend to have been “model children.” They instinctively worked to please their parents by being virtuous, orderly, and low maintenance.
 • Idealistic; a quiet moral authority plus good-hearted peacemaking tendencies.
 • Often have a sense of mission, public or private; work hard for the welfare of whomever they are committed to. Good with detail.
 • Unpretentious yet dignified; generally empathetic, have the “common touch;” An elegant simplicity of manner and speech.
 • Can be well-liked, modest, endearing; gentle yet firm. Some have a striking quality of grace and composure punctuated by bursts of spontaneity and sweetness.
 • Sincere, practice what they preach; effective, good natured and idealistic.
 • Rule-bound, obedient/compliant; perfectionistic and self-critical.
 • Can be compulsively orderly, overly controlled, unemotional and disassociated.
 • Can act on weird principles that make little sense; A dubious, fractured morality.
 • May be visibly successful but don’t really feel connected to their achievements.
 • Passive tolerance of absurd or damaging situations; so normal they’re strange.
 • Exceptionally conservative in their habits of living and around making changes.
 • May go passively self-neglectful. Dutiful to what they shouldn’t be.
 • Minimize, tell themselves they had a great childhood, everything’s fine.
 • Placid numbness can creep over them. exceptionally out of touch with feelings. Intolerant of their own emotions; gradually deaden their souls.

Nine's Connection to Three
 • Brings Nines a kind of clarity of the heart.
 • They can suddenly see and prioritize on their own behalf. They take decisive deliberate steps towards personal goals. brings energy, industry, action and purpose.
 • This connection supports a steady persistence. Focused Nines are unstoppable.
 • A stepwise strategy for taking action and completing tasks in the real world.
 • This connection also helps Nines with appropriate social presentation. They are more willing to dress up and voluntarily play roles in the service of goals. They can also have a sense of propriety, be well-groomed and have good manners.
 • Healthy Threeish Nines can find freedom in role playing and the connection to Three can bring acting abilities as well as a talent for mimicry.
 • Distinct tendencies towards role-playing and hyperactivity as a distraction from their basic sense of non-being. A busy form of self-neglect, an active laziness.
 • Threeish Nines can go false and be defined by a milieu, playing roles based on the expectations of others.
 • May be vain, enjoy being mistaken for an image or indulge in episodic show-off behavior.
 • Nines can be fascinated by or obsessed with Three-like falseness in others; may want to root out fraudulence and tear it down.
 • In Threeish cultures (America) or subcultures (corporations) Nines can feel extra pressure to succeed and achieve-which they may then live up to or sabotage.
 • They may be ambitious although often they are acting out someone else’s ambition. Can be chosen to fulfill the family’s unfulfilled wished and dreams.
 • This connection supports a prince or princess-like quality and Threeish Nines can act entitled.
 • Can fluctuate between high and low self-esteem; underneath their image, a Nine may feel indefinite, insignificant and depressingly unworthy.

Nine’s Connection to Six
  • This connection brings Nines courage. Where healthy Sixes develop the courage to do, Nines find the courage to be.
 • The connection can usefully shake up a Nine’s complacency. It helps Nines challenge their fears and take risks, expose the inner self that they usually disguise and efface.
 • The connection to Six brings tenacity and stamina – a willingness to see things through, to work faithfully away at tasks and commitments with a committed perseverance.
 • Brings an idealism, sense of responsibility that stirs the Nine to action.
 • Realistic, more able to acknowledge what can go wrong. If Nines tend to minimize and Sixes exaggerate. unable to ignore being upset, useful self-doubt.
 • Sixish Nines can have a nervous, scatterbrained quality. They can overanticipate events, start to doubt themselves and think in anxious, obsessive loops.
 • Distract themselves from seeing the obvious or taking useful action.
 • Can seem agitated and frightened in a beside-the-point way.
 • The Nine’s laziness about personal priorities is reinforced by the Six tendency to procrastinate. Sixes postpone taking any action, while Nines put off taking right action.
 • Sixish Nines can go in nervous busy circles. thinking about a problem or a decision extra hard while getting more and more confused and obsessive.
 • Can be risk-aversive, afraid of making mistakes that might provoke conflict.
 • Obedient to authority and a sense of tradition.
 • Might hand over responsibility for decisions to others and then blame them if the decisions don’t turn out well.
 • Can be cowardly and may run away from conflict or be undependable under stress or duress.
 • Anti-authoritarian attitudes especially with an Eight wing.
 • An episodic experience of fear-a Nine could have anxiety attacks followed by months when the Nine is not conscious of feeling fear at all.


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