Sixes - Fine Distinctions
Six With a 5 Wing
Sixes with a 5 wing are generally introverted and somewhat intellectual.
When healthy, they often have many realms of interest as well
as surprising competencies and skills. May have an original and
idiosyncratic point of view. Can be bookish; some are interested
in history or feel rooted in the past or related to a long tradition.
Also good at predicting the future. May test potential friends
for a long time but once you're in, you're in - a friend for life.
When more entranced, they may project a willed remoteness. Have a "tip of the iceberg" quality - they show little but you sense hidden dimensions, intensity and activity. Tension between needing to be seen and withdrawing for protection. Might act arrogant or cryptic or cynical when afraid.
When phobic, can be diplomatic and say things
without saying them. Entranced counterphobics are either cool
and loners or argumentative, tending towards violence. Can brood
over injustices to them, entertain conspiracy theories, spend
time alone building cases. Paranoia in private. May like secretive
behind-the-scenes group activity. Sneaky vengeance, passive/aggressive
toward others, self-attacking and self-destructive at home.
Real-Life Sixes With a 5 Wing: Warren Beatty, J. Edgar Hoover,
Tommy Lee Jones, J. Krishnamurti, Spike Lee, Steve McQueen, Richard
Nixon, Chuck Norris, Lee Harvey Oswald, Anthony Perkins, Robert
Redford, Janet Reno, Steven Seagal, James Spader.
Movie Sixes With a 5 Wing: Keir Dullea, David
And Lisa; Gene Hackman, I Never Sang For My Father; Rock Hudson,
Send Me No Flowers; Wendy Hughes, Lonely Hearts; Ben Kingsley,
Pascali's Island; Martin Landau, Crimes And Misdemeanors; Sheila
McCarthy, I've Heard The Mermaids Singing; Sam Neill, The Piano;
Anthony Perkins, Psycho; Michelle Pfeiffer, Frankie And Johnny;
James Spader, Bad Influence; John Turturro, Barton Fink; Henry
Winkler, Night Shift.
Six With a 7 Wing
Sixes with a 7 wing are generally outgoing and may appear more
overtly nervous. More plainly want to be liked and will pursue
others in contrast to 5 wing who pulls in. Can be charming, sociable,
ingratiating. Have a faster tempo, stronger connection to 3. Often
self-preservation subtypes, characterized by a personal warmth.
Can have a cheerful, forward-looking drive and be disarmingly
funny. Self-effacing, gracious and curious.
When more entranced, may be self-contradicting and seem as if they want two things at once. Sometimes test others overtly, drive you crazy with mixed messages. It may be hard to follow what they're saying. When threatened, one defense is to become impossible to please. When counterphobic, they tend to be accusative. Some get caught up in big plans that they hope will result in material security.
Also can be insecure, irritable, petty, irrational, chaotic. Subject to mood swings, inferiority complexes, runaway fears. May have hair-trigger flare-ups of paranoia. Falsely accuse others and then seem not to realize it. Other times they plead to be taken care of. Sometimes defensively conservative in their lifestyle. Some struggle with appetite.
Real-Life Sixes With a 7 Wing: Jason Alexander, Kim Basinger, George Bush, Judy Davis, Carrie Fisher, Mel Gibson, Diane Keaton, Jack Lemmon, Richard Lewis, Marilyn Monroe, Mary Tyler Moore, Rosie Perez, Sydney Pollack, Richard Pryor, Meg Ryan, Susan Sarandon, Carly Simon, Suzanne Somers, Patrick Swayze, Sean Young, Vladimir Zhirinovsky.
Movie Sixes With a 7 Wing: Woody Allen, most
any film; Victor Bannergee, A Passage To India; Billy Crystal,
City Slickers; Judy Davis, Husbands And Wives; Teri Garr, Tootsie;
Holly Hunter, Broadcast News; Diane Keaton, Annie Hall; Jack Lemmon,
The Apartment; Steve Martin, Parenthood; Mary Elizabeth Mastrantonio,
Class Action; Chris Mulkey, Patti Rocks; Bill Murray, What About
Bob?; Sydney Pollack, Tootsie; Meg Ryan, When Harry Met Sally;
Martin Short, Innerspace; Meryl Streep, Postcards From The Edge;
Janine Turner, Northern Exposure.
CONNECTING POINTS (Stress and Security)
Six's Connection to 3
Healthy connection to 3 brings Sixes self-confidence, productivity
and skillfulness. Often supports the will and focus to follow
through on what they start. More able and willing to make decisions,
leadership capacities can emerge. Emphasis on excellence - what
Sixes do, they often do well. Can be proud of their achievements,
self-affirming. Also, many have good organizational and administrative
talents that are related to this connection. Highly capable, though
not always confident.
When more entranced, Sixes may descend into 3-like phoniness. Start projecting an image, wanting to be liked. Can go hard-hearted, charming, wear a mask to cover their anxiety. Some conceal their sense of deviance by attacking others who are different.
Can have disassociated ambition and become compulsively competitive. More conscience than an unhealthy 3 but still may be mean, calculating, vengeful. Want to best others and feel superior but hide these motives to appear likable. Could stab you in the back, while feeling like they were the victim. Compensatory hyperactivity - they go in circles and do too much when under stress. Reach a point of exhaustion, then drop into a stupor (low side of 9).
Movie Sixes who demonstrate this connection: Judy Davis, Husbands And Wives; Dustin Hoffman, Tootsie; Anjelica Huston, The Grifters; Ben Kingsley, Pascali's Island; Jack Lemmon, The Apartment; Mary Elizabeth Mastrantonio, Class Action; James Spader, Bad Influence; Meryl Streep, Postcards From The Edge; Billy Zane, Dead Calm.
Six's Connection to 9
Healthy connection brings a calming, faithful, spiritual sense
that helps a Six to trust life. They may begin to feel a part
of the larger order of existence, in touch with the Big Flow.
Helps them to develop a safer image of the universe and find their
place in it. Begin to experience faith, not as a concept but in
their bodies. Connection also contributes to an "internal
reference," where the Six searches for their own true feelings
about matters instead of relying on outside authorities. Trust
themselves, grow more neutral and centered. Can humanly understand
others who would ordinarily seem threatening. The Six starts to
sees through their own projections.
When more entranced, a Six may go numb, spaced-out, and lazy like an unhealthy 9. It's an escape chute from anxiety, a haze to shield against danger. May avoid responsibility, stick their head in the sand, procrastinate. Fractured, chaotic thinking. Go in circles; a 9 does this to avoid focused action whereas a Six wants to avoid independent action that may provoke attack. Can get habit-bound, rut-prone, cautious and stuck. Merge dependently with their environment, more passive with authority. Noncommittal or ambivalent in relationships.
Movie Sixes who demonstrate this connection: Woody Allen, Hannah And Her Sisters; Albert Brooks, Broadcast News; Mel Gibson, Hamlet; Jack Lemmon, The Apartment; Sheila McCarthy, I've Heard The Mermaids Singing; Michelle Pfeiffer, Frankie And Johnny; Gena Rowlands, A Woman Under The Influence; John Turturro, Barton Fink.
SUBTYPE THEMES
Self-Preservation
Self-preservation Sixes often display a personal warmth that is
meant to defang the potential hostility of others. If they sense
aggression or disapproval in the environment, they may counterphobically
zero in on it. Use humor, charm, self-depreciation to make friends
out of possible enemies. Can flatter like Twos, play themselves
down, work to maintain other people's affection. Act vulnerable,
invite rescue. Ingratiating, but more nervously dependent than
other Six subtypes. Also less in touch with their own hostility.
Their home environment is sometimes important.
May feel like their house is a fortress against the outside world's
dangers. Worry about their ability to survive; have scary "worst-that-can-happen"
fantasies. A good movie example is Bill Murray in What about Bob?.
Also Teri Garr in Tootsie and The Cowardly Lion in The Wizard
of Oz.
Intimate
Sixes with this subtype tend to act strong or seductive when insecure.
They are much more likely to be counterphobic, especially the
men. May seem like Eights, take risks, talk tough. Act powerful
and in control at the times when they feel most frightened. Worry
about looking weak, having their fears show. May act arrogant
but aren't really. Some study martial arts or seek a way of life
that makes them strong.
Beauty is another focus; trying to seem attractive so as to contain fear, get approval, and distract others. May consciously hide behind a seductive mask. Unlike Threes, Sixes know they are hiding. Can act cool and patrician or be flirty. Some have a focus on aesthetics. This subtype often has a stronger connection to the vanity of 3.
Movie examples include: Humphrey Bogart, Treasure Of The Sierra Madre; Holly Hunter, Broadcast News; Anjelica Huston, The Grifters; Mary Elizabeth Mastrantonio, Class Action; Nick Nolte, The Prince Of Tides; Janine Turner, Northern Exposure. In Batman Returns, Michelle Pfeiffer turns from a meek phobic Six into a fiesty counterphobic Six. When phobic, she is a social subtype (see below). Her alter ego, the counterphobic Catwoman, is an intimate subtype.
Social
Social Sixes tend to be dutiful and especially dependent upon
authority. More often phobic than counterphobic. Often dedicated
to a cause. When acting alone they will still refer to others
in their mind for safety and agreement. May want to see your opinion
first before they will offer their own. Could change their mind
to agree with you. Often align with a group or a cause and will
follow the rules loyally, trying to please the boss. "Company
men." Focus on a social or work context and try to be ideal
within it. Could persecute others in the name of their group's
ideals.
May imagine they can't live without the group's support: "If I don't play by the rules I'll be out on the street selling pencils." Later there's inevitable disillusionment. Then Six starts grumbling that they are not appreciated. Could go passive/aggressive, resent a boss they had romanticized. Connection to 9 is stronger with this subtype.
Movie examples include: Wendy Hughes, Lonely Hearts; Ben Kingsley, Pascali's Island; Martin Landau, Crimes And Misdemeanors; Jack Lemmon, The Apartment; Michelle Pfeiffer, Batman Returns; Sheila McCarthy, I've Heard The Mermaids Singing; Martin Short, Innerspace.
Sevens - Fine Distinctions
Seven With a 6 Wing
Healthy Sevens with a 6 wing are responsible,
faithful, lovable, nervous and funny. They are generally more
oriented to relationship and want to be accepted by other people.
Can be steady, more willing to stick with commitments; the 6 wing
brings a longer sense of time. Usually funny or enjoy a good laugh
- an amazing number of comedians are Sevens with a 6 wing. More
openly vulnerable, have an unguarded, tender sweetness. Some have
trouble expressing anger even when they are justified. May evade
or finesse authority but still aware of it like a 6. Canny and
practical, they look for the deals and the loopholes.
When more entranced, may have surprise episodes of sensitivity and insecurity. Their feelings can be easily hurt sometimes. Sensitive especially to comparisons. May avoid putting themselves to the test. Grow dependent and addicted to other people, afraid to be alone, suspicious and skittish. Can feel guilt easily, may project their conscience onto others and then act irresponsibly. Make themselves shallow, fall in and out of love easily. Sometimes breezily betray others by running away. Can be reckless, unstable, and self-destructive.
When Sevens have a counterphobic 6 wing their idealism can motivate a sincere desire for social reform. May work hard for a cause. Can be antiauthority, passive/aggressive, flippant, defiant. Some report hating to be told what to do. Clashes with Ones likely. May call down trouble on themselves. Complain about the status quo. The realm of hippie rebellion.
Real-Life Sevens With a 6 Wing: Dave
Barry, Kenneth Branagh, Joseph Campbell, Chevy Chase, Katie Couric,
David Crosby, Hugh Downs, Peter Fonda (counterphobic), John Gielgud,
Cary Grant, Goldie Hawn, Marilu Henner, Magic Johnson, Ken Kesey,
Timothy Leary (counterphobic), Eddie Murphy, Brad Pitt, Jerry
Rubin (counterphobic), Rosalind Russell, Martin Short, Steven
Spielberg, Lily Tomlin, Robin Williams, Jonathan Winters, William
Wordsworth.
Movie Sevens With a 6 Wing: Richard Burton, The Night Of The Iguana (counterphobic); Ruth Gordon, Harold And Maude (counterphobic); Andre Gregory, My Dinner With Andre; Hugh Hefner, Hugh Hefner: Once Upon A Time; Audrey Hepburn, Breakfast At Tiffany's; Tom Hulce, Parenthood; Christine Lahti, Housekeeping; Rosalind Russell, Auntie Mame; John Shea, Missing (counterphobic); Dick Van Dyke, Mary Poppins; Jon Voight, Midnight Cowboy.
Seven With
an 8 Wing
When healthy, Sevens with an 8 wing
are often generous, gregarious and expansive. Tend to be exceptionally
loyal to their friends, especially when social subtype. Leap aggressively
to the defense of those they care for. Might seem loud or boisterous
although some are urbane and witty. Enjoy social celebrations,
storytelling, jokes, food and travel. Generally have a strong
self-confidence for worldly matters and getting what they want.
Talent for making something out of nothing - entrepreneurial.
Usually share what they have when healthy, want everyone to enjoy
their sense of bounty and wide range of interests.
When more entranced, they may be demanding, displaying a selfish impatience and a self-justifying narcissism. May want what they want right now. Aggressive, hasty drive to acquire money and material options and recognition. Can demand that the people in their lives say only what the Seven wants to hear - sugarcoated truth. Lash out angrily if reality doesn't meet their expectations; sometimes vengeful. Often perfectionistic as parents (low side of 1). Moralize to others and then are themselves irresponsible. Amnesia for promises made in an expansive moment. Particular difficulty with sexual fidelity.
Real-Life Sevens With an 8 Wing: Victor
Borge, Chuck Berry, Robert Bly, Michael Caine, Joan Collins, Francis
Ford Coppola, Barry Diller, Clark Gable, Ava Gardner, Newt Gingrich,
Jackie Gleason, Tom Hanks, Richard Harris, Alan King, Larry King,
Robert Klein, Henry Miller, Jack Nicholson, Anthony Quinn, Leni
Riefenstahl, Louis Rukeyser, Barbra Streisand, Jann Wenner, James
Woods.
Movie Sevens With an 8 Wing: Klaus Maria Brandauer, Mephisto; Jeff Bridges, Tucker; Cher, Mermaids; Richard Dreyfuss, Once Around; Ava Gardner, The Night Of The Iguana; Andy Griffith, A Face In The Crowd; Bob Hoskins, The Long Good Friday; Michael Keaton, Clean And Sober; Ray Liotta, Goodfellas; Paul Newman, Blaze; Jack Nicholson, Batman.
CONNECTING POINTS (Stress and Security)
Seven's Connection to 1
Healthy side of this connection brings self-discipline, follow-through,
and a certain idealism. There may be a principled persistence
and sober critical faculties that help the Seven to get things
done. Good at balanced evaluation; they're appreciative and sort
for the positive but they're nobody's fool. Ethics can be important.
Want to improve things, search for "win/win" solutions
to problems. Start to take life seriously enough to do things
well, finish what they start. The connection to 1 generally helps
Sevens become more objective and committed in ways they are comfortable
with.
When more entranced, their discipline degenerates into a confining web of limits. Seven project their 1 streak and begin to react to the stuffy, pointless rules of others. May confuse discipline with repression, build a trap that they need to escape from, blame it all on you. Critical and dogmatic, can harbor perfectionistic ideals of what others should do. Start to think in black and white; can go obsessive about detail.
The other neurotic manifestation is when Sevens latch on to a Big Idea. This is an abiding principle or future possibility that the Seven is sure will resolve their present discomfort. Can grow quite deluded and obsessed. Eyes fix so completely on a future possibility that they excuse themselves from the consequences of present actions.
Movie Sevens who demonstrate this connection: Jeff Bridges, Tucker; Francis Ford Coppola, Hearts Of Darkness; Robert Duvall, Lonesome Dove; Andre Gregory, My Dinner With Andre; Hugh Hefner, Hugh Hefner: Once Upon A Time; Dennis Hopper, Flashback; Tom Hulce, Parenthood; Sidney Poitier, Lillies Of The Field; Jon Voight, Conrack.
Seven's Connection to 5
Healthy connection to 5 helps a Seven
take time to contemplate and internalize their experience. Often
brings sobriety, perspective, and the power to digest the experiences
they have "eaten." Helps Sevens slow down, calm down,
detach, see the Big Picture. May also be more willing to accept
their pain and chew through it. Develop a respect for inner turmoil
and deeper emotional processes that can take time. May embark
on a search for philosophical wisdom. Find more depth, learn how
to be alone. Some Sevens have an almost aesthetic distaste for
excess that is related to this connection.
When more entranced, connection to 5 supports escapism, stinginess, and depressive tendencies. Unhealthy Sevens will check themselves out of difficult situations, withdrawing into their mind like a 5. Depersonalize - may detach from other people with frightening speed. They then move on to the attractive and new. Addiction to information, ideas, mental fantasy. Tendency to intellectualize feelings and rationalize.
The Seven style is usually generous, but this connection can bring an incongruous "cheap streak." Could pinch pennies, complain about high prices, etc. When more entranced, this can take the form of a stingy selfishness; the Seven could be talking to you about their needs even as you are feeling abandoned or let down by their broken promises. Sevens are also prone to withdrawn depressions, especially as part of a cycle of highs and lows.
Movie Sevens who demonstrate this connection: Anne Bancroft, 84 Charing Cross Road; Richard Burton, The Night Of The Iguana; Robert Duvall, Lonesome Dove; Hugh Hefner, Hugh Hefner: Once Upon A Time; Lena Olin, The Unbearable Lightness Of Being; Robert Preston, Finnegan Begin Again; Robert Redford, Out of Africa; Fred Ward, Henry And June; James Woods, Joshua Then And Now.
SUBTYPE THEMES
Self-Preservation
Self-preservation Sevens are a little
confusing since they tend to be highly social. Characterized by
a drive towards family and shared group experiences. Enjoy operating
within their real or chosen family, checking in with a group of
like-minded people. Chronic sharing on a circuit. People in the
group are the source of interesting information and stimulation.
Don't feel burdened or trapped by duties like a social Seven.
Loyal to family, often have a 6 wing. Defend their circle and
castle. Barricade, find safety in numbers. This subtype goes with
the image of the "party animal." Movie examples include
Auntie Mame and, especially, Hugh Hefner in Hugh Hefner: Once
Upon A Time.
Intimate
Intimate Sevens tend to garnish and
embellish reality with fantasy. Intimate relationships are often
thought of as shared experimental adventures, and the Seven perceives
their partner through a veil of imagination. May romanticize others
as a way to avoid the limits and boredom of mundane life with
the same old someone. Can be more involved with their fantasy
of the partner than with the real person. Tentative, distractible,
impersonal, may have a wandering eye. Some have great difficulty
with commitment and seem fickle as they move on to the next fantasy
projected onto the next new person. Don Juan scenario.
More generally, intimate Sevens have a tendency to be suggestible. They may especially seek the new with the fascinated enthusiasm of a faddist, stepping into future fantasies to avoid the present.
Good movie examples include: Julie Christie, Darling; Tom Hulce, Parenthood; Christine Lahti, Housekeeping; Karen Landry, Patti Rocks; Lena Olin, The Unbearable Lightness Of Being.
Social
Social Sevens often feel a tension
between duty to others and the desire to escape. Tend to feel
responsible for the people around them and experience that as
a confining burden. They then react against the weight of obligation,
seeking variety and craving change. When entranced, can be highly
irresponsible. When awakened, they make peace with commitment
and sacrifice and are often very stable and generous. Often an
idealism, sometimes a stronger connection to 1. Serving something
beyond themselves, dutiful. Can be from a large family where they
had lots of responsibility, eldest child. With an 8 wing they
tend to fight the sense of burden harder.
Movie examples include: Beau Bridges, The Fabulous Baker Boys; Cher, Mermaids; Tom Hanks, Nothing In Common; Sidney Poitier, Lillies Of The Field, James Woods, Joshua, Then and Now. Also Christine Lahti in Housekeeping, though her basic subtype is intimate.
Eights - Fine Distinctions
Eight With a 7 Wing
Awakened Eights with a 7 wing are often
expansive, and powerful. Gregarious and generous, they may display
a cheerful bravado. Can be forceful but with a light touch, funny.
Often have a sense of humor about themselves. Generally more extroverted,
ambitious and materialistic. May talk loud and be sociable partygoers.
Sometimes driven to bring the new into being. Can be visionary, idealistic, enterprising. Willing to take risks. May think more clearly than Eights with a 9 wing; 7 wing brings an intellectual capacity.
When more entranced, aggression combines with gluttony to form an almost virulent tendency to addiction. Many entranced Eights with a 7 wing have had drug and alcohol problems or tensions around addiction. Prone to temperamental ups and downs - can be moody, egocentric, quick to anger. Tendency to court chaos, inflate themselves narcissistically. Some are ruthlessly materialistic. Can use people up, suck them dry. Maybe be explosive or violent, prone to distorted overreaction.
Real-Life Eights With a 7 Wing: Leslie Abramson, F. Lee Bailey, Lucille Ball, Sean Connery, Jimmy Connors, Robert Conrad, Brian Dennehy, Lawyer Alan Dershowitz, Danny DeVito, Kirk Douglas, Rush Limbaugh, Fritz Perls, Ann Richards, Geraldo Rivera, Telly Savalas, Frank Sinatra, Grace Slick, Donald Trump, Zorba the Greek.
Movie Eights With a 7 Wing: John Cassavetes, I'm Almost Not Crazy; Michael Douglas, Wall Street; Robert Duvall, The Great Santini; Gene Hackman, Class Action; Christine Lahti, Leaving Normal; Laura San Giacoma, sex, lies and video; Ron Silver, Reversal Of Fortune; Elaine Strick, September.
Eight
With a 9 Wing
Healthy Eights with a 9 wing often
have an aura of preternatural calm, like they haven't had a self-doubt
in decades. Take their authority for granted - queen or king of
all they survey. May be gentle, kind-hearted, quieter. Often nurturing,
protective parents; steady, supportive friends. Informal and unpretentious,
patient, laconic, generally somewhat introverted. Sometimes a
dry or ironic sense of humor. May have an aura of implicit, simmering
anger rather like a sleeping volcano. Slow to erupt but when they
do it's sudden and explosive.
When entranced, the 9 wing brings an Eight a kind of callous numbness. They can be oblivious to the force of their anger until after they've hurt someone. Calmly dominating, colder; may have an indifference to softer emotions. If very unhealthy, they can be mean without remorse or aggressive in the service of stupid ends. Paranoid plotting, muddled thinking, moral laziness. Can be vengeful in ill-conceived ways, abuse those they love, don't know when to quit.
Real-Life Eights With a 9 Wing: Edward Asner, Johnny Cash,
Fidel Castro, Ty Cobb, Michael Douglas, Milton Erickson, Linda
Fiorentino, Geronimo, John Huston, Evel Knievel, Lee Marvin, Golda
Meir, Robert Mitchum, Dixy Lee Ray, Mickey Rourke, Marge Schott.
Movie Eights With a 9 Wing: Robert De Niro, The Mission; Clint Eastwood, White Hunter, Black Heart; Rutger Hauer, Ladyhawke; Judd Hirsch, Ordinary People; William Hurt, The Doctor; Shirley MacLaine, Used People; Lee Marvin, Gorky Park; Jack Palance, City Slickers; Gena Rowlands, Gloria; John Wayne, The Shootist.
CONNECTING POINTS (Stress and Security)
Eight's Connection to 5
Healthy connection to 5 brings mental
clarity. Begin to think coherently; Eights are more strategic
and systematic when this connection is active. Develop an objective
perspective that helps them depersonalize and pull back from narcissistic
overreaction. Take the long view, think things through, pause
before they react. Can grow philosophical. Sometimes studious
and introspective. May develop an intellectual streak, especially
with a 7 wing. Connection also helps take the edge off Eight's
addictive tendencies. They consume less, keep their own counsel,
grow more moderate in their behavior.
Unhealthy connection is characterized by morbid withdrawal and tendencies to paranoia, depression, and guilty brooding. Eights can isolate themselves and lapse into inaction. Often this comes after they have recognized their own cruelty or moral failures. Might experience crushing guilt, a feeling that they normally deny. Can then begin to cruelly self-punish, spiral into regret. Fears arise but not usefully. Go dead, feel powerless. Intellect is twisted in the service of self-hatred or heightened paranoia about betrayal by others. When deeply unhealthy there is a strong possibility of suicide.
Movie Eights who demonstrate this connection: Philip Anglim, Haunted Summer; John Cassavetes, Tempest; Robert De Niro, The Mission; William Hurt, The Doctor; Kate Reid, The Andromeda Strain; Gena Rowlands, Gloria; Denzel Washington, Malcolm X; John Wayne, The Shootist.
Eight's Connection to 2
Healthy connection to 2 helps Eights
learn to change places with others. 2s are overidentified with
others while Eights underidentify so this connection helps Eights
learn how to empathize. Extend themselves, become better communicators,
admit their interdependence. Can become more compassionate and
thoughtful, more open and willingly vulnerable. Sometimes have
an ethos of love, in touch with the child within. May have therapeutic
personalities in that they want to heal others, make things better.
Display the strength of true gentleness.
Unhealthy connection to 2 brings codependence. An Eight may get overidentified with their partner and be unable to disengage. May defend their partner's weaknesses, even those that hurt the relationship. Compensate for other's limitations, make excuses.
Also a stronger tendency to overreaction, display a kind of hair-trigger hysteria. Can take the whole world personally like an unhealthy 2. Won't let go of slights and injustices, their pride is offended extra easily. More vengeful, act entitled, episodes of megalomania. Eight's narcissism is intensified and reinforced.
Could also develop an obsession about their partner. Compulsive clutching and possessive demands. Sometimes prone to jealousy, associated with unhealthy intimate subtype.
Movie Eights who demonstrate this connection: John Cassavetes, I'm Almost Not Crazy; Robert De Niro, The Untouchables, New York, New York; Gene Hackman, Class Action; William Hurt, The Doctor; Patsy Kensit, Twenty-One; Christine Lahti, Leaving Normal; Gena Rowlands, Gloria; Denzel Washington, Malcom X.
SUBTYPE THEMES
Self-Preservation
Self-preservation Eights often grow
up poor or struggling. Food, home, money may be crucial. Generally
seek control over their immediate environment and may worry about
survival. Tend to value things over people. Maintaining order
and material security are important. Eights with this subtype
have a stronger connection to 5. Can be materialistic and feel
deserving about it; more often have a 7 wing. Could be collectors
or have prized objects.
Sometimes domineering towards those within their sphere. Might preach an ethic of selfishness - justify their bullying of intimates as necessary to "toughen them up" for the hard world outside. Life is a jungle, only the strong survive. Survivalist mentality, territorial imperatives, angry at family members because they threaten household objects. Hiding in and presiding over their castle; sometimes extra Fiveish.
Good movie examples include: Barry Corbin ("Maurice"), Northern Exposure; Robert De Niro, This Boy's Life; Peter Falk, A Woman Under The Influence; Jackie Gleason, Nothing In Common; Gena Rowlands, Gloria; Denzel Washington, Malcolm X.
Intimate
Want stability, loyalty and predictability
in close relationships. May feel easily betrayed, and are prone
to suspicion. Can love deeply, have a genuine close-up interest
in and concern for spouse. Since life is dangerous they want to
choose close allies carefully. Attached to the idea of being able
to trust completely. Lots of testing of their partner's motives.
If they pass the tests then the Eight relaxes.
When entranced, this can lead to possessive obsession, and a need to dominate and control partner. Intimate Eights can get codependent, jealous, hooked into the other. Sometimes can't let go; their partner's every move is (over)reacted to. When very unhealthy, spousal abuse scenarios are possible. Stalking, vengeful vows to follow other to the ends of the earth, etc. Connected to the low side of 2. Intimate Eights sometimes play socially rebellious "bad kid" roles.
Social
Social Eights are often loyal to a
group and conceive of friendship as a pact of mutual protection.
Want everyone to benefit; group's cohesion and welfare is most
important to them. Often oriented to family, honest, hold themselves
accountable to others. May be the group's protector or provider.
Emphasis on cooperation.
When healthy, they are aggressively blustery but will back down and apologize when they've been unfair. More able to say the Three Little Words -"I was wrong." Stronger connection to 2, can emotionally switch places with others in their chosen group. As friends they want to protect what's soft or young in you and appreciate the same in return. Hostility directed towards outside forces who threatens the group's welfare.
Movie examples include: Richard Gere, Internal Affairs; John Cassavetes, I'm Almost Not Crazy, Tempest; Gene Hackman, Class Action; Nick Nolte, Q & A; Ron Silver, Reversal Of Fortune; Elaine Strick, September.
Nines - Fine Distinctions
Nine With an 8 Wing
Awakened Nines with an 8 wing have
a modest, steady, receptive core. They are charged by the dynamism
of 8 - when focused on goals they often have great force of will.
Get things done, make good leaders. May have an animal magnetism
of which they are only partly aware. Can seem highly centered,
take what they do seriously but remain unimpressed with themselves.
8 wing can bring a strong internal sense of direction. Relatively
fearless and highly intuitive. Generally not intellectual unless
they have it in their background.
When more entranced, they manifest the contradictions
of the two styles expressing them in sequence. Could be passively
amiable like a Nine and then turn horribly blunt like an 8. One
moment they are opinionated or nasty, next moment kindly and supportive.
Often don't hear their voices when angry. Can have a sharp, grating
edge. May be slow to anger and then explode. Or angry but don't
know it; may confuse being assertive with being rude. Placidly
callous - both styles support numbness. Tactless and indiscriminate
and indiscreet. May be unwittingly disloyal, spilling everyone's
secrets. Sexual confusion, sometimes they are driven by lust.
Real-Life Nines With an 8 Wing: Clint Eastwood, Peter Falk,
Gerald Ford, James Garner, John Goodman, Elliott Gould, Woody
Harrelson, Helmut Kohl, Carl Rogers, Gena Rowlands, Gloria Steinem.
Movie Nines With an 8 Wing: Richard Burton, Beckett; Sean Connery, The Russia
House; Clint Eastwood, Tightrope, Unforgiven; Sam Elliott, Lifeguard;
Elliott Gould, The Long Goodbye; Woody Harrelson, White Men Can't
Jump; Bob Hoskins, Mona Lisa; Ann-Margret, A New Life; Al Pacino,
Sea Of Love.
Nine With a 1
Wing
Tend to have been "model children."
Instinctively worked to please their parents by being virtuous,
orderly, and little trouble. When awakened, they have great moral
authority plus good-hearted peacemaking tendencies. Often have
a sense of mission, public or private, that involves working hard
for the welfare of everyone they are committed to. Principled
expression of love. Desire to contribute, do little harm. May
be well-liked, modest, endearing, gentle yet firm. Some have great
grace and composure with bursts of spontaneity and sweetness.
Elegant simplicity.
When entranced, they tend to be self-neglectful. May go passively dead and operate from a dubious, fractured morality. Dutiful to what they shouldn't be. Play the good child, disappear into contexts, settle for being overlooked or just partly recognized. Passive tolerance of absurd or damaging situations. One-sided relationships where the Nine gives too much. Rationalize, minimize, tell themselves they had a great childhood, everything's fine. Placid numbness creeps over them. Intolerance of their own emotions. Gradually deaden their soul.
Real-Life Nines With a 1 Wing: Annette Bening, Tony Bennett, Warren Christopher, Connie Chung, The Dalai Lama, Annette Funi-cello, Mahatma Gandhi, Charles Grodin, Patty Hearst, Audrey Hepburn, Anjelica Huston, Grace Kelly, Nancy Kerrigan, Martin Sheen, James Stewart.
Movie Nines With a 1 Wing: Tom Cruise, Risky Business; Annette Funicello, Back To The Beach; Chief Dan George, Little Big Man; Graham Greene, Dances With Wolves; Audrey Hepburn, Robin And Marian; Eva Marie Saint, Nothing In Common; Wallace Shawn, My Dinner With Andre; Tom Skerritt, The Turning Point; Harry Dean Stanton, Paris, Texas; Donald Sutherland, Ordinary People; Joanne Woodward, Mr. And Mrs. Bridge.
CONNECTING POINTS (Stress and Security)
Nine's Connection to 6
The high side of this connection brings
several qualities, among them courage. Whereas healthy Sixes develop
the courage to do, Nines find the courage to be. Connection helps
them challenge fears and take risks. Expose the inner self they
usually disguise with self-effacement. Can also be especially
loyal friends, faithful and committed to those they love. Connection
brings tenacity and a willingness to see things through. Realistic,
more able to acknowledge what can go wrong.
More entranced, they develop a nervous, agitated quality. Can
overanticipate new events, start to doubt themselves. Obsessive
worry distracts them from the need to take useful action or see
the obvious. Go scatterbrained. Nine's laziness is reinforced
by 6's tendency to procrastinate. Nines put off what is specifically
important to their well-being.
Dependency often an issue - will hand over responsibility, then
blame others for making the decisions that the Nine won't make.
Cowardice, may wimp out on agreements. 8 wing and this connection
can make for antiauthority attitudes.
Movie Nines who demonstrate this connection: Jeff Goldblum, The Tall Guy; Andie MacDowell, sex, lies and video; Wallace Shawn, My Dinner With Andre; Imelda Staunton, Antonia And Jane; Donald Sutherland, Ordinary People; Joanne Woodward, Mr. And Mrs. Bridge.
Nine's Connection to 3
High side brings a kind of clarity
of the heart. Can suddenly see clearly and prioritize on their
own behalf. Take decisive deliberate steps towards goals important
to them personally. Steady persistence: when focused, Nines are
unstoppable. Connection brings energy and industry and helps with
appropriate social presentation. Willing to dress up and voluntarily
play roles in the service of goals.
Unhealthy connection brings tendencies towards role-playing, vanity and hyperactivity. Can allow themselves to go false and be defined by a milieu. Play out roles based on the expectations of others. May get caught in vanity and take pleasure in being mistaken for an image. Can have a prince or princess-like quality, act a little entitled. Proud of what others praise, but secretly know it isn't who they really are. Underneath the image, a Nine may feel indefinite and numbly unworthy. Can be fascinated by phoniness in others, want to break through or tear it down. Their unfocused hyperactivity is a busy, active form of sleep.
Movie Nines who demonstrate this connection: Richard Burton, Beckett;
John Cleese, A Fish Called Wanda; Tom Cruise, Risky Business;
Willem Dafoe, Light Sleeper; Jeff Daniels, Terms Of Endearment;
Sam Elliott, Lifeguard; Jeremy Irons, Damage; Andie MacDowell,
sex, lies and video; Peter Riegert, Local Hero; Imelda Staunton,
Antonia And Jane; Donald Sutherland, Ordinary People.
SUBTYPE THEMES
Self-Preservation
Preoccupied with physical comfort,
maintaining habits and satisfying appetites. The image of the
lazy couch potato goes with this subtype. Strategy for getting
along is to ask as little of life as possible. Can have a love
of the minimal and enjoy the repetition of known routines. Distract
themselves with pleasant domestic activities. Live conservatively.
Consume food and drink for anaesthesia. May have large appetites,
drug addictions, be physically slow moving.
Many good movie examples including Gary Farmer, Powwow Highway; Albert Finney, Rich In Love; Lillian Gish, The Whales Of August; Elliott Gould, Little Murders; William Hurt, The Accidental Tourist; Wallace Shawn, My Dinner With Andre.
Intimate
Focused on an ideal of romantic union.
Get lost in one relationship or in the yearning to have one. High
expectations of partner. Sometimes sound melancholy like a Four.
Prone to jealousy. May settle on someone and then grow critical
and have a wandering eye. Can also deny their partner's flaws
and idealize them to stay in union.
Another scenario involves multiple relationships, searching from one person to the next. Sometimes the Nine can't decide between two people. Triangulation. Paradoxically, this subtype can be fickle because they are so easily disappointed.
Good movie examples include: Andie MacDowell, sex, lies and video; Ann-Margret, Carnal Knowledge; Shirley MacLaine, The Apartment; Joanne Woodward, Mr. And Mrs. Bridge.
Social
Social Nines tend to gravitate toward
groups and then have conflicts about joining or staying apart.
Can enjoy group energy and interests but may be also aware of
the group's expectations. These the Nine will both play along
with and resist.
When immersed in a group, social Nines can lose themselves, trying to become all things to all people. Gregarious but may start to resist being too heavily influenced, to compensate for their sense of lost identity. Can sometimes resent how the group doesn't really see them. May fixate on what others think of them. Or resent the group and make fun of it. Some social Nines stay basically uninvolved but hang out at the group's edge. Frequently there's lots of activity. May get caught up in roles - a stronger connection to 3 goes with this subtype.
Movie examples include: Jeff Bridges, Texasville; Sean Connery, The Russia House; Tom Cruise, Risky Business; Imelda Staunton, Antonia And Jane. Bill Clinton would be a real-life social Nine.
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